Relocating With The Family

Experts say that relocating can be one of the most stressful experiences in life and may have effects on the entire family, but it really takes its toll on the children. Moving severs early friendships, and adjusting to a new school can be especially hard on the kids. Moving does not only have effects the younger children. It can have effects on kindergarten students’ right up to high school seniors.

Younger children in kindergarten to third grade may be affected by the move because they are adjusting to their first experience of separation from their parents, and at the same time encountering new authority figures, and bonding with new friends. Parents should be aware that this often causes the child to revert to a more dependant relationship with mom and dad.

Older children may have more problems with a move then most parents could ever imagine. These children have established relationships with friend and teachers and may be reluctant to accept the fact that they have to relocate. It is extremely important that parents explain clearly to the children why the move is necessary. Give these children as much information about the new area as you can. Emphasize any features that the child may have a special interest in such as lakes, mountains, parks, or sports teams.

Parents should be aware that school systems are not all the same, and curriculums differ. Your child may find himself or herself ahead in some subjects and behind in others. A special effort should be made to find out how the school systems differ, and where your child
fits in.

School in an enormous part of a child’s life, and changing schools is a major event. It sometimes takes a while for a child to adjust to a new school, and feel comfortable. It’s hard to be “The New Kid” at school. At first it might seem that every other kid has a best friend or is in a social circle, but this feeling is usually short lived. However, parents should be alert for any signs of depression, or signs that the child is having problems, such as changes in behavior, appetite, sleep problems or irritability.